do you guys remember that one post about how men feel entitled to take up so much space and women have to deal with a lot less?
This is actually a documented thing. You always see men on the subway or tube or whatever using both armrests while women sit with their arms hunched together into their laps. That’s why I always make a point to take up at least one if not both armrests of the tube so men can be uncomfortable for once.
^ again, for all the people telling me posting this picture is complaining too much.
In my college classes (and high school too) guys were always stretching, sticking fists and elbows in my face, leaning their heads back over my desk, over my work, spreading their legs out, kicking my bag with their dirty shoes. And let’s not pretend they were in other guys’ space as much as they were in women’s.
It’s so true, this happens to me every day on the train. Same with the walking thing, women will weave out of the way whereas men just walk straight and plow down anything in their path. I always end up playing chicken with men on the sidewalk now, because I refuse to move out of their way.
I love playing chicken with dudes who hog the sidewalk. BODY CHECK! Fucking assholes.
“NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE THIS!” FUCK OFF.
“AS A MAN, I THINK THAT…” FUCK OFF.
Men always have the same defensive bullshit to spout every time they get called out on their shit. AND IT IS BORING. They remind me of those toys where you pull a string an they have like 5 phrases they can say. Over and over and over.
same here with playing chicken, its hilarious sometimes because they get this flash of realization in their eyes that says ‘holy shit, she’s NOT going to move/??? what do????’ because THEY ARE SO USED TO EVERYONE MOVING FOR THEM
when i was younger my grandpa drew this on a piece of paper,
and he asked me how i, as the red circle, would get around the two people (black circles) if i was walking down the street.
so of course i came back with
moving out of the way for them as i walked.
he asked me if i thought men would do the same and, at the time, i did because i thought it was just common courtesy. but he told me that men would barrel straight through without giving a shit and that i should do the exact same. because i was the one walking and they were the ones in the way. so that’s exactly what i do.
i find this really fascinating because this actually what defines so-called masculine and feminine traits and gestures. the whole limp-wrist thing? that’s someone decreasing the amount of space they take up by not extending their arm fully. same with crossing one’s legs, how it’s considered more masculine to swing your shoulders when you walk creating a wider gait instead of your hips, how someone who holds their elbows tightly into their torso instead of letting them fall more loosely at their sides is considered feminine.
taking up space is not just a frequent habit of males in our culture, its actually how society thinks masculinity is supposed to be expressed.
It’s also why you can seriously freak people out if you’re a woman by sitting back in your chair and draping your arm over the backrest of the one beside it.
It’s claiming space, and more importantly, it’s powerful body language. In primates (including humans), the individual that “opens” its chest—that is, leaves it open to attack—is the most dominant of them, precisely because it shows a confidence that no one WILL attack you.
Look at someone who’s comfortable vs someone who’s uncomfortable—the uncomfortable person will inevitably cross their arms or cover their chest to in an instinct to protect the thoracic cavity.
So, when you want to look HELLA confident, open up your chest and make direct eye contact. It feels weird (for women!) at first, but it’s the fastest way to freak a dude out. They genuinely do not know what to do when a woman displays behaviour they recognize as confident.
This was interesting. Literally never thought about it before.
I think Hiccup and Astrid are the best animated couple ever.
I love how their relationship isn’t a major plot point for the films. Astrid isn’t there as a reward for the hero, she is also his best friend (next to Toothless of course). She didn’t stop being a warrior after she became a love interest (and Hiccup wouldn’t want her to, he loves her for it).
They talk about their problems. They fight their enemies together. And they trust each other.
Something that I’m just noticing from these gifs. They actually lean their cheeks into the kisses, opposed to just letting the other do all the work. That’s something actual couples do when they know each other well enough to know it’s coming. I love this.
Why do dirty hippies act like John Lennon was a saint
He physically abused both his wives, emotionally abused his son, was openly homophobic and antisemetic, was controlling and misogynist, he literally made yoko ono write a list of all the men she’d been with…
Numero uno. Were you there during the time?
Numero dos. Not all hippies were dirty. The media of the time loved to depict them that way and depict the ones who were because they actually sold to the white middle and upper class that was terrified of hippies who were anti the Vietnam War, pro anti poverty programs, and free sex. There was a joke at the time, from the point of view of a middle class man: I object to this free sex for three reasons: it’s immoral, it’s ungodly, and I ain’t gettin any. The white middle and upper classes were terrified of the hippies, and the media was paid well to make sure they were.
Numero tres. Most of the young people—not just hippies—knew none of this about John Lennon. He was singing the ideas that they cared about. The “Woman” song was trying to tap into two oppressions as people saw it: oppression of the blacks (the n word), which was ongoing, and the oppression of women, which was ongoing. No one protested the song because both groups agreed with it. You may want to read some of the history of the women’s movement and of the rise of the Black Panther Party and the SNCC for this to make sense—the n-word was unspeakable for us liberals, but for the SNCC and the Panthers it was the truth, and to the liberals of the 60s-70s that’s what Lennon was talking about.
Numero quatro. I can’t speak to his personal life. I wasn’t a worshiper or even a fan, not of his, not of the Beatles. In that time I was a strange person. Forced to a choice I picked neither Beatles nor Rolling Stones but the Doors, and o, they were flawed, so don’t even. But my closest friend was in tears when John Lennon was shot, and he stood vigil outside the Dakota that night. I have seen the tourists taking pictures of the building and the nearby Strawberry Fields mosaic.
Pablo Picasso was a brute to his women. Gaugin ditched his family and headed to Tahiti. Jim Morrison—don’t get me started. Janis Joplin screwed around and was miserable. Too many idols are lice in their personal lives. They say Martin Luther King was unfaithful to his wife repeatedly.
You may choose the personal life or the message, it’s up to you. So many people needed Lennon’s message for courage in the fight against the war in Vietnam, and they didn’t know the rest until later. You should make up your own mind. But one more thing.
There were a number of those “dirty hippie” collectives who took in people who came to San Francisco for the hippie experience—for the Summer of Love and the discovery of a free way to live—and they fed them, they housed them, they made certain they got medical care. They took in the teenaged runaways and looked after them, helping them to make their choices and often saving their lives after drug overdoses or people who were not so benevolently inclined. And they didn’t just do it in San Francisco. In city after city those people looked after each other, and they looked after the youngsters. They did far more for the lost and the lonely and the scared and the runaways and the mentally ill than the middle classes and the upper classes ever did for them. So, really—how dirty were they?
Just a pool, disguised as a pond, with a trampoline instead of a diving board.
I wrote a paper about these kinds of pools several years ago for a class when they were just prototypes. These pools have a natural filtration system that run based on the plants that are in the pool that give the water nutrients that allow it to not only be crystal clear, but you are also able to drink the water because it becomes so clean. And the best part is that once the initial filtration system is installed and calibrated, it maintains itself and eliminates the need for chlorine or constant maintenance like salt water pools.